18 Tips to maintain a long distance relationship

In this article I will teach you the best tips to maintain a long distance relationship. You will learn how to feel more secure about your relationship and how to fight anxiety and fears. Also, you will see the advantages of a long distance relationship and focus on ways to communicate better with your partner in order to strengthen your connection and deepen your love.

Being in a long distance relationship is not easy. No matter how much technology allows you to talk and see your partner on a click of a button, nothing can replace face-to-face interaction. The connection and energy you feel when you are close to your partner cannot be replicated by mobile devices.

Most people believe that long distance relationships never work out. However, when apart from each other, couples learn not to take their partner for granted, making their love become stronger.

Communication in a relationship is hard enough and long distance adds a lot of complex issues to it. There is a great distance and disconnect in long distance relationships due to time differences, conflicted work schedules and different priorities at different times of the day.

Distance can break trust and push people away from each other not only physically, but also emotionally. One of the biggest tests to your relationship is becoming separated from your love one.

How can you cope with the distance and how can you strengthen your connection? Read the following 18 tips and learn how to maintain a long distance relationship.

Tips on maintaining long distance relationship

1. Don’t let the distance between yourselves push your partner even further away. Share the important moments with your partner and make them feel they are there with you every step of the way. Make them feel included in your life even though they are not physically there.

2. Learn about time-zone differences and your partner’s routine. This way, you can set up times when you can talk with each other and feel less pressured or anxious if your partner is not replying to a text straight away.

3. Build trust and don’t jump to conclusions or assume the worst. Life is unpredictable and sometimes there are different events that come up and might intervene between your communication. Trust your partner and don’t let anxiety take over your mind and predict the worst. If you have any doubts, ask your partner directly instead of over-analysing your thoughts. Make peace with the fact that you won’t know what your partner is doing all the time.

4. Focus on the quality of the communication, not the quantity. When the physical aspect of the relationship is absent, communication becomes a valuable tool in your relationship. However, too much conversation can become overwhelming for both of you. Focusing on the quality of the conversation rather than the quantity will make the conversation more enjoyable and less pressuring. Learn how to improve communication in relationships here. 

5. Give them a personal gift to hold on to when you are not around, something they can have with them all the time or see every day and remind them of you.

6. Embrace the challenges together. Sometimes, your insecurities might bring the worst in both of you and you might have doubts about how the relationship is going to work. Remember why you have hold on for so long and that the distance is only temporary and you will find a way to be together again. Don’t lose sight of the big picture and don’t give up.

7. Send them little meaningful gifts, letters, flowers or pictures. The element of surprise is very important when it comes to long distance relationships. Receiving a gift from your partner is a great reminder of their love and commitment to you.

8. Believe that nothing can come in between your relationship and that together you can face any obstacles. Believe that you and your partner are strong together and that the distance will only bring you closer. However, it is important to know that both of you are on the same page. There will be days when you are stronger than your partner and days when they will be stronger than you. Support each other and offer each other reassurance when needed.

9. Set clear expectations about what is and what is not appropriate in your relationship. This will save you a lot of arguments in the future. Setting boundaries and making things clear from the start are very important in maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship, especially when you are apart.

10. See the light at the end of the tunnel and focus on that. It is important to know that the situation has an end and that better times are ahead of you. Focus on that moment when you will be together again. Have a plan on how you’ll be living with each other in the future and work toward achieving it.

11. Establish how long the relationship is going to be long distance, the less uncertain the future of the relationship is, the better. Also, talk about how often you are going to see each other. Visiting each other regularly should be a priority for both of you.

12. Don’t be afraid of what other people might say, they don’t know your relationship. If it feels the right thing to do for you and you think this person is the right person to put in the effort, then trust your gut and go for it.

13. Be absolutely sure that you want to be with this person, don’t do it because you are afraid to be lonely and you have found someone to fill up the emptiness.

14. When you finally see each other, try not to plan the whole time together with activities and things to do. Give each other time to reconnect, to spend quality time just the two of you and just be together. Allow some time you spend together to be closer to the normality that would eventually happen when you are going to live together.

15. Remember to have your own personal life and engage in activities you enjoy doing. Also, let the other person have their personal life. Invest in yourself and allow your partner to grow and have amazing experiences.

16. Travel to see your partner as often as you can. When people are in a long distance relationship, they tend to idolise their partner and only see their most positive traits. Seeing them regularly and living with them will let you see them for who they really are and prepare you for the time you will be living together.

17. Honour the relationship as if you were together. Have consistent date nights on face-time: movies, dinners or even an online video game you can play together.

18. Learn to respect, trust and love them from the distance and you will be unstoppable when you are together.

Final thoughts

I hope this article helped you realise the best ways to maintain your long distance relationship, whilst strengthen your connection and overcome fears and insecurities.

If you have any questions, feel free to leave them below and I will be more than happy to answer them.

All the best,



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14 thoughts on “18 Tips to maintain a long distance relationship”

  1. I love this article Ioana, it hits so many important points. Things you might not think of that can cause problems when you are many miles away. Little things that you can do to enhance the romantic experience from afar. Sometimes long distance relationship can feel like you’re eating rice with chopsticks, you know what you want, but it’s so hard to do it lol. I will keep this article close and reference it as a guide to successfully maintain a relationship from afar. My girl and I both said today how we never intended to be in a relationship this way, but here we are, so far apart and so in love. Thank you Ioana 🙂

    • Hi Ryan,

      Thank you very much for your comment. Not many people intend to be in a long distance relationship, but sometimes things just happen that way. It is important to nurture your love and relationship in these times and all the efforts will pay off when you will be back together.

      Wish you all the best,

  2. Hi Ioana,

    I’ve always thought long-distance relationships can go one of two ways:

    Firstly, as the saying goes, “absence makes the heart grow fonder”, and being apart from your loved one can make the bond grow even stronger.

    Then of course there’s the “out of sight, out of mind” scenario, whereby the less you see someone the less you think about them.

    You are of course perfectly correct that if you are looking to maintain a long-distance relationship then it is a two-way street and both parties have to work hard at the quality of communications they have.

    I have really only ever been involved in one long-distance relationship, but this was in my younger days, before the advent of instant communication and social media. We met on holiday, had a great time together, but lived over 300 miles apart when we returned to the UK.

    Eventually things just fizzled out, and I must admit I didn’t really follow any of your tips here, so it was to be expected.


    • Hi Partha,

      Thank you very much for your comment. I am sure things were even harder before face-time and social media. You are right, without nurturing the relationship and having both partners working hard for it, long distance relationships can be extremely difficult.

      All the best,

  3. Dear Ioana,
    You are so right, being in a long distance relationship requires total commitment and trust.

    I have been married for almost 25 years. In the last 25 years we have been living in two different countries. We have been able to do this by God’s grace and support.
    You are right in saying that you need to trust each other and don’t mind what people might say or think.
    You would do your best to visit regularly and constantly be in touch, updating each other frequently on what is happening on your ends.
    Not taking the next person for granted is very important too. You have to make the effort to keep the relationship going strong.

    I would also add, to also live your life and pursue other things that interest you.
    Make progress in your life and don’t just sit around the phone waiting for him or her to call because the time wasted can’t be replaced.

    I would say guard your heart and your life and stay committed to each other.

    When in doubt ask questions and iron out your differences.
    Understand why the relationship is long distance that way you will be able to cope

    Finally, make plans to come back together in the future.

    It makes this more bearable.

    • Hi Ibi,

      Thank you very much for your comment. The best advice comes from those who have managed to be together despite the long distance between them and it definitely seems this is the case for you. Thank you for all the great advice and I hope to see you back here.

      Kind regards,

  4. Marvelous tips, Ioana, not just for long distance relationships, but also for partners living together! There were a lot of couples these past months that were not allowed to see each other because traveling was forbidden. Or even leaving the house was not possible. On the Dutch news was an item about a girl who has a relationship with somebody from another continent and at some point traveling was allowed for family members, but not for them because they were not officially married. That must have been so hard. But as she was not the only one, she instigated an action to make the government aware of this problem. And won! Good for her and her boyfriend. 🙂

    • Hi Hannie,

      Thank you very much for your comment. You are absolutely right, the pandemic has forced many people to stay separated and did not allow them to travel to see each other as much as they would have liked to.
      That was a great story, it is very good to know that people have fought for their love and won!

      All the best,

  5. Hi Ioana,

    Good to see a balanced and comprehensive article on this topic. It must be hard to be forced into a long distance relationship due to Covid-19 as many have. Thus article is a must read

    • Hi Ali,

      Thank you for your comment. I am happy you enjoyed reading my article and I cannot agree with you more. Long-distance relationships during the pandemic are extremely hard and I hope the tips in this article will help many couples around the world.

      Kind regards,

  6. Thanks a lot for this article, personally I’m not someone who works a lot with long distance relationship cos I’ve tried a couple of them but nothing worked so I’ve been really bothered a out of times.  These tips are rather practical and are gonna be helpful too. What is the right thing to do if your partner blocks the communication flow?

    • Hi Bolt,

      Thank you for your comment. Long-term relationships are not everyone’s cup of tea and this is absolutely fine. Unfortunately, sometimes circumstances change and people are forced to be in a long term relationships. 

      If the partner blocks the communication flow there is absolutely nothing you can do unless they did this as a consequence of your negative behavior. They you should apologize and try to rectify the situation. If your behavior did not triggered your partner’s actions then I would advice to accept and respect their decision and try to move on. It is the best things you can do for yourself and your future happiness. 

      Kind regards,


  7. Wow! Just wow! I count myself extremely lucky to come by this article! I found it helpful, enjoyed reading through every bit of this. I myself involuntary entered into a long distance relationship as a result of this Corona virus! Its been a hell of a ride since the start of the virus, thanks for your tips to maintaining a healthy long dist relationship

    • Hi Josh,

      Thank you for your comment. I am happy to see that my article has provided you with useful information to maintain your long-term relationship. 

      All the best,



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