Dating & relationship advice- How to build a strong relationship

Everyone has their own definition of a perfect relationship. For some honesty, respect and trust are the most important elements of a healthy relationship.

For others, sexual attraction and fascination are trivial for their relationship. Some will define a perfect relationship as a strong friendship in which both partners are independent and free to express their needs and desires.

”Happily ever after is not a fairy tale- it’s a choice.”-Fawn Weaver

Dating and relationship advice

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same personMignon McLaughlin

Depending on every individual’s personal needs, desires, and self-understanding, the definition of a perfect relationship varies. However, if you ask any older couple that has been together for decades, they will always emphasize the same values that are essential for a long and healthy relationship.

 

The values that represent the foundation of a strong relationship

HONESTY

Honesty doesn’t always pay, but dishonesty always costs. ~Michael Josephson

When couples are completely honest with each other about their needs, desires, actions, and expectations they will form a partnership based on trust and mutual understanding. The long term benefit of honesty is tremendous. Doing what you said you will do and only promise your partner the things you know you can achieve should be the foundation of any relationship. This way, your partner will trust that when he faces a difficult situation, you will be there for him.

TRUST

I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you. –Friedrich Nietzsche

Most people think that trust is the belief that your partner won’t betray you or won’t act in a way to harm your relationship. But trust is so much more than that. Trust means believing in each other, in your abilities, in your dreams and hopes. Trust means knowing that you will be there for each other every step of the way and that together you can achieve anything. Trust is knowing that you understand and support each other, that you will overcome together any obstacle life throws at you, that you are a team no matter what!

RESPECT

If we lose love and self-respect for each other, this is how we finally die.-Maya Angelou

I cannot emphasize enough the importance of mutual respect. Respect each other every step of the way. Life has its ups and downs and there will be times when you and your partner have disagreements. Learn how to listen to your partner’s perspective without trying to criticize or put him down. Support each other even when you disagree and try to work things out between yourselves. There are things that should not be shared with your friends and family, learn how to respect the privacy of your relationship. If you really feel you need guidance and advice, seek help from a counselor.

Actions that will save your relationship

EXPRESS YOUR LOVE

The best thing to hold onto in life is each other. – Audrey Hepburn

I know, life can get tough! There are financial problems, stressful jobs, issues with raising the kids, and other stressful events that will get in the way of your relationship. There is a secret bond that keeps couples together: being intimate with each other- hug, kiss, hold hands, tell them ‘I love you’ and make love to each other.

SHARE

Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow. -Swedish Proverb

Share special moments, trust them with your heart, and tell them your inner secrets and desires. That will help deepen the bond you have. Make plans together, take an interest in each other’s hobbies and activities, try to connect and understand each other, and embrace your differences, they make you unique. Go on a date and both commit to leave the problems aside and focus solely on your relationship for the duration of your date. 

AND LAST BUT NOT LEAST

Remember to enjoy every second of it! Embrace every moment and face any challenges you have to face together!

Love is a two-way street constantly under construction.-Carroll Bryant

If you have any questions, feel free to leave them below and I will be more than happy to answer them.

All the best,

Yoana
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28 thoughts on “Dating & relationship advice- How to build a strong relationship”

  1. Hi Yoana,

    Firstly, I have to say that I love your use of sayings throughout this article.

    One than particularly struck as chord with me – “Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow”.

    I believe that, yes a solid relationship is built around love, trust, honesty and respect. However, sharing those special moments together, good or bad, is the foundation of a long-lasting relationship.

    Thanks
    Partha

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  2. HI Yoana. Loved your post and I can very much relate to all of your writing.
    While reading, it has brought back memories. It reminded me of how and why I have being with my wife for 18 years now.
    Honesty, respect and trust, together with sexual attraction is the perfect combination that keeps us going. Thanks for the reminder!
    I will be very much looking forward to your next post.
    All the best,
    Ioannis

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    • Hi Ioannis,

      Thank you very much for your beautiful feedback. I m happy to see that my article has brought you back good memories and I hope you will find more interesting information in my next article

      Kind regards,

      Yoana

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  3. Hi Yoana,

    I love this article. With the way of the world right now, we need to keep up with our relationship building. Whether we are dating people or trying to keep up our relationships with friends and family. How we do it is all the same.

    I am doing my best to build relationships over the phone and online. It’s not the same as in person but it’s the best we can do at the minute.

    How are you getting on with your relationship building?

    Thanks for sharing such an insightful and informative article.

    All the best,

    Tom

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    • Hi Tom,

      Thank you very much for your comment. I agree, we are all going through difficult times right now and we need to keep building our relationships with our partner, family and friends. With little to no interaction we need to use our phones and social media profiles to keep in touch and check regularly on friends and family.

      Wish you all the best,

      Yoana

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  4. I really enjoyed reading how to build a strong relationship for people who have experienced themselves, and you know what has really bothered me for a very long time is how can someone you love with all your heart one day just say they have fallen out of love with you?

    I just don’t understand how that can be possible,

    Jeff

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    • Hi Jeff,

      Thank you very much for your comment. Falling out of love involves a long process , it is not happening as easy as falling in love. It takes months and sometimes years of misunderstandings, lack of communication and feelings of sadness before someone falls out of love. People grow and develop at different stages and sometimes couple have frequencies for development. If they don’t communicate and always try to maintain their relationship healthy and alive, with time love dies.

      Wish you all the best ,
      Yoana

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  5. Hi Yoana
    A very touching and inspiring piece. I like to hope that we do learn from our mistakes. There are positive behaviors which serve to build an intimate relationship while there are negative behaviors that undermine, erode and can eventually destroy an intimate relationship. It takes reflection to look back on how we may have missed opportunities to build and strengthen and fallen into the pitfalls of allowing ourselves to express negative behaviors that have undermined.
    Most of us have been around long enough to have loved and lost one or more times. Those experiences can offer us the most important lessons.
    Stay safe and well
    Andy

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    • Hi Andy,

      Thank you very much for your comment. I couldn’t agree with you more. We need to learn from both our and others’ lessons and always improve ourselves and the relationships with our partner.
      I hope I can remind people how important it is to choose the positive behaviours over negative behaviours.

      Kind regards,
      Yoana

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  6. Hi Yoana,

    What a beautiful post! A husband and now father, I can totally relate to your article.

    As we all know all relationships are testing and requires construction to become something special. Your Carroll Bryant quote ‘Love is a two-way street constantly under construction’ hits the nail on the head.

    Like you say Actions are an important role in a relationship, expressing your love is such a small thing to do but makes you and your partner stronger.

    Great post and really brings back the importance of our relationships that we sometimes take for granted.

    Take care
    Damon

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    • Hi Damon,

      Thank you so much for your comment. I am very happy to see that you can relate to my article. It is very important to me to see how people connect to my words. I hope to bring a lot of positive thoughts to those who read my article!

      Kind regards,

      Yoana

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  7. What a nice post you wrote Yoana! I really enjoyed reading it and could not be silent about your post so I decided to leave my comment here and say Thank You for sharing this quality post. Actually I was looking for information about the dating advice and when I landed on your website and read this post, it answered all my questions in details and it was exactly what I wanted to know.
    I’m happy that you’ve decided to write about this topic and share it with others. It’s very useful post in my opinion and can definitely be used as a great source for everyone who is interested to know about this topic.

    I will definitely come back to your site again to read more posts. Keep up quality articles! 🙂

    Best,
    Ali

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  8. Hi Ali,

    Thank you much for your kind words. I am very happy to see that you find my article not only interesting , but also helpful. It makes me very happy to see that my words have a positive impact in other people’s lives.
    I hope you will like all my future post.
    Wish you all the best.

    Kind regards,

    Yoana

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  9. You did a great job Yoana! I believe that this is the information that can’t be find on the web easily and you decided to share it with others for free, that’s really great!
    I didn’t know much about building a perfect relationship but I’ve been always interested to know more about this topic and your comprehensive guide helped me a lot. I don’t know if you wrote this post 100% by yourself or got help from other sources as well, anyway, it has really brilliant information which convinced me to share it with my friends on social networks.
    I think, the Internet needs more quality posts like yours these days, especially when we see a lot of crappy ads and scams about this topic. You can’t read a post easily on a website without seeing tons popups but your site and post is an ideal example of a quality article which is not covered by annoying ads, has very useful information and lets readers enjoy reading every piece of it.

    Thank you again and I wish you continue providing such that quality information in the future which turn the Internet and blogs into a better place to surf!

    Best,
    Ali

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    • Hi Ali,

      Thank you so much for your comment. I am very happy to see that you enjoyed my article and you find it useful and worth sharing on social media with your friends. I am new to this world and I really appreciate all the support.
      I am writing the articles on my own, but my inspiration comes from books I have read in this area. I studied Psychology in University, so I had to read a lot about human behaviour. Also, I had to work on myself and read self-development books which helped me gain most of my knowledge.
      I hope to continue to share valuable information with you here.

      Wish you all the best,

      Yoana

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  10. Simple, yet powerful advice. As you mentioned, there are values that don’t change throughout time. Physical beauty disappears sooner or later, but love, trust, respect, and honesty should remain no matter how old we are.

    There has to be a balance. We cannot expect what we don’t give. We have to understand we’re not perfect beings, but that’s precisely one of the main pillars of any relationship: accepting our significant other with his virtues and defects.

    No relationship is perfect. There will always be problems, but if both parties do their part, they will be able to sort things out.

    Thanks for sharing.

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    • Hi Enrique,

      Thank you very much for your comment. I cannot agree more with you, there will always be problems in relationships, but if both partners are willing to work things out and always seek to improve their relationship, they will be able to overcome anything and become stronger. 

      Wish you all the best,

      Yoana

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  11. Hello, great post on what a perfect relationship looks like.

    My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 8 years and we’re practically married already.

    We have something that many couples don’t have and it’s hard to explain. She’s my best friend, she’s my rock.

    We understand, trust, and love one another fully and have great communication. We’ve done 3 years long distance and now living with each other and it has never been better.

    Yes, we fight, every couple does, but it’s not those little petty ones that leave you guys just pissed off at one another for no reason. We annoy each other, but all in love.

    Our friends and followers ask us all the time how we’re able to stay so happy together, and honestly I can’t explain it.

    You’ll just have to experience it yourself!

    Thanks for sharing.

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    • Hi Lorenz,

      I am so happy to  hear about your relationship. Unfortunately , these days less and less couples are willing to deeply and completely commit to each other. I love how you describe your girlfriend as your ‘rock’.

      Thank you very much for your comment.

      Kind regards,

      Yoana

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  12. Thanks for these great tips on how to build a strong relationship.

    Having personally dated my wife only for 4 years and now being married to her for 6, I can testify that all these statements you made are true.

    Also I would add that communication / expression your emotions is one of the top ones in my opinion.

    Thank you again for sharing this awesome advice. By the way are you married and if so what would you say is your number one advice for couples ?

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    • Hi Michael,

      Thank you very much for your comment. I cannot agree more , communication is key in building strong relationships.   I would personally say that my number one advice is to always support each other! 

      Regardless of circumstances and personal opinions, it is important that you partner always feels supported and loved. 

      Wish you all the best,

      Yoana

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  13. Great article! 

    Honesty, trust, and respect are vital in every relationship, but one thing that has divided more relationships over anything else, is a lack of communication. Openly communicating with one another, goes hand in hand with your suggestions of expressing love for each other, and sharing, and you can but that if the communication lines are open, then you both will be enjoying each others company.

    Another secret to lasting happiness within the marriage, is to constantly put your spouses needs before yourself. Doing so, eliminates the selfish feelings of your needs not being met (which is the cause of many fights in a relationship), and not only makes your spouse feel loved and respected, but encourages them to want to do the same for you. 

    Thank you again for the reminders, and hope that many people are able to stumble across your article in the same I did!

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    • Hi Brandy,

      Thank you so much for your comment. I cannot agree more, communication is very important in order to build strong relationships. 

      Also, I believe you are right when you said another secret for lasting happiness within marriage is putting your partner first. As you said, when you feel loved and appreciated, you want to do the same for your partner. 

      Wish you all the best,

      Yoana

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  14. Hi Yoana ,
    I am in a relationship for almost 9 years and I cannot agree more with you. I think the most important thing is always suppport each other. My partner is also my best friend and he’s always there for me, we communicate a lot and I think this is the reason that we never fight.
    I really enjoyed your article and I hope to see more posts like this.

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    • Hi Adriana,

      Thank you very much for your comment. I am glad to see that you enjoyed my article and that you have such a beautiful relationship where you think of your partner as your best friend. In the end, this is what emotional dependency is about, support, love and communication!

      Wish you all the best,
      Yoana

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