In this article I will show you what women want, how to attract and keep them. You will understand what women truly desire from men and how to make them feel loved and special.
How to attract women
”Women are not attracted to men who are good-looking; they are attracted to men who are attractive.”- Zan Perrion
Women are attracted to men who socially dominate and express confidence. Acting calm and under control will attract women, whilst constantly fidgeting and displaying a nervous behavior won’t.
Insecurity is the most unattractive trait a man can have. Don’t ask the woman you are dating if she likes you or how she thinks the date it is going.
Intelligence, leadership and discipline are attributes that women admire. A good career which you are passionate about shows that you are ambitious and reliable.
Women are attracted to men that are skillful and knowledgeable. Be confident in your abilities, but don’t be arrogant.
Women desire to feel protected. By opening the doors, walk on the busy side of the sidewalk or pull out the chair for her you will make her feel safe and special.
Your physique is also important. A confident body posture, nice teeth, well-groomed hair and clean nails are qualities that women are looking for in men. Also, the way you dress, what shoes you wear and your cologne can give an important message about your personality.
Positive energy and passion are like a magnet for anyone you are meeting. Have a positive attitude towards life and relationships. Don’t talk about past relationships were you felt hurt or disappointed.
Women like to be taken by surprise. Be spontaneous and ready for new adventures. Organize an unconventional date where you can have fun and connect to each other.
There is nothing more attractive than a man who values himself and has high expectations. Be a man of high-value and you will be like a magnet to any woman you desire.
How to master your conversation skills
”Conversation is a meeting of minds with different memories and habits. When minds meet, they don’t just exchange facts: they transform them, reshape them, draw different implications from them, engage in new trains of thought. Conversation doesn’t just reshuffle the cards: it creates new cards.”- Theodore Zeldin
Women are looking for real conversations, for warmth and security. They need to feel secure in order to enjoy the date.
Women are attracted to emotional energy. Talk passionately about your interests, listen and ask questions. By putting her at the centre of the conversation, you can make her feel valued.
Even when the purpose of dating is not a long term commitment, women are more likely to engage with men that make them feel safe.
Offer her your undivided attention. Maintain eye-contact in a warmth and gentle way and don’t get distracted by other people in the room or your phone.
Ask open questions and show interest in the conversation. Try to keep the conversation positive. Otherwise, she will associate the negative things discussed with you.
Humor is an indicator of intelligence. Make her laugh and you are half-way there.
Everyone loves to talk about things that they are most interested in. Ask her questions about her interests, passions, dreams or places she has travelled.
Ask questions about friends, family or her pets. This will show her that you are taking a step further in trying to get to know her.
How women react when they are attracted to you
”Women spend their lives trying to look good for men. So a woman who feels she’s sending the right visual signals is pleased with herself.”- Helen Fisher
When they are attracted to you, women transmit signals. These come in various forms but the most common signals are direct eye contact and smile. Also, glancing at you and away from you transmit the same message.
If they are attracted to you, women involuntary lean towards you whilst you talk. Another way they show interest is playing with their hair or fidgeting with a piece of jewelry.
‘’You don’t know a woman until you understand what she’s not saying to you’’- Unknown
If there is one quality all women are looking for in a partner, that is trustworthiness.
Women have a biological desire to feel safe and protected. They want men to be interested in their needs and desires and feel respected and heard. By showing on time, keep your word and be there for them, you can demonstrate these qualities.
Women need you to be there for them in two ways: physically and emotionally. In order to make any woman happy, you need to support her when she needs you and to listen and understand her.
In order to feel special, women desire undivided attention. Disengage from any activity and give her your undivided attention when she talks with you.
Women need to feel emotionally connected and emotionally safe. Accept her emotions and listen without becoming defensive. Read more about what women want in relationships here.
When men are dismissing women’s emotions by either trying to fix them, ignore them or minimize them, they create emotional tensions in the relationship.
When she is confessing her feelings to you, show her understanding and empathy. The biggest mistake you can do is to try to minimize her problems, try to fix them or make a joke about them.
I hope this article has helped you understand what women want, how to attract, keep and understand them. By following the advice in this article, you will be able to make any woman feel protected, desired and loved.
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All the best,
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