How to attract the man of your dreams

In this article I will teach you how to attract the man of your dreams by explaining what qualities men are looking for in a woman and how to make him feel special. I will also present the key factors you need to look for in order to determine if he is the man of your dreams.

What are men attracted to?

“Physical attractions are common, but a mental connection is rare.”- Unknown

There are two types of beauty: the one defined by society, which changes over time and your unique beauty, which emerges through your behaviour and the way you carry yourself.

Nowadays, the way you look has a big influence on how much attention you get. Women crave attention, so they spend their whole lives concentrating on their looks. This leaves little room to work on their personality and behaviour, which instead could bring long-term attraction.

Men won’t commit to a long-term relationship based on someone’s looks. Attraction is an emotional reaction. The way you carry yourself, you charisma, self-confidence, energy and unique traits are more important than your looks.

Think about how many times you were attracted to a man that looked nothing like ‘your type’. You were attracted to his unique and special traits.

In this aspect, men are not different from women. When they are ready to commit they look for more than just looks. They look for someone who is kind, nurturing, sweet, confident, elegant, positive etc.

Superficial attraction is exactly that- superficial. Real attraction is created through personality traits, behaviours and unique characteristics. Learn more about the qualities that men are attracted to here.


Men love to be challenged

”Men want a challenge, but they want a challenge they can win.”-Whitney Gaskell

Men love to be challenged. Confidence, high-standards and values are traits that keeps a man interested. If he thinks he can have you regardless of how he treats you, he will become less interested.

On the other hand, appearing difficult to approach and aloof is a breaking deal. Men fear rejection so if you are too much of a challenge they won’t approach you.

Moreover, if all you have to offer is the chase, as soon as they get what they want, they will get bored. They are attracted to the chase, not to the person they are chasing.

Men chase women that have values and high-standards, not the ones that are hard to get; women that ask for time and respect, not the ones playing mind-games and tricks.

Show your interest in a subtle way, but let him approach and engage with you. This way, he will become interested in getting to know you better.

Men are attracted to women that have their own friends, hobbies, interests and passions. They don’t look for other’s approval and live an independent and fulfilling life.

A man wants the woman that no one else can have, not the one that he can’t have.

When is the best time to have sex?

“Sex is an emotion in motion.”― Mae West

This is one of the most frequent questions women have when it comes to dating. Most women believe that the amount of time they wait before they have sex will determine whether their partner will engage in a long-term relationship.

When it comes to sex, there is only one rule: wait to establish emotional connections with the man you are dating. Whether emotional connection is established on your first, 10th
or 50th date, depends on the dynamic between you and the man you are dating.

Emotional connection is established through sharing values, having meaningful conversation and sharing experiences. However, avoid talking about your ex-boyfriends, your weight and your insecurities.


How to make him feel special

”The greatest marriages are built on teamwork, mutual respect, a healthy dose of admiration and a never-ending portion of love and grace.” -Fawn Weaver

  • Recognise and admire his uniqueness

Men like to be admired and praised for who they really are. Complimenting a man on his unique traits will make him feel special. When a man feels special and admired in your company, you will become special to him.

Praise his qualities, not his achievements. A man wants to know that you will stay by his side and still admire him even if he loses everything.

Be specific about the things you admire about him. He will feel special and unique. Men like to feel that you see him different from any other men in the world.

  • Be his best friend

Support his goals, be there for him when he needs you the most and stand by him. Work as a team and don’t compete with him.

  • Let him protect and provide.

Men need to protect and provide in order to feel fully accomplished. They need to feel that they offer you something that you couldn’t get from anyone else.

Even if all you need from him is emotional support, let him know how much this means to you. Men’s self-worth diminishes when they feel they are not bringing anything special to your life.

  • Support and believe in him

When a man feels that you support and believe in his abilities and success, he will strive harder. Believing in his dreams when he doubts himself is the most important gift you can give to your partner.

Is he the man you want?

“A true relationship is two imperfect people refusing to give up on each other.” – Unknown

We discussed how to attract, keep and make the man of your dreams feel special. However, the most important thing is to establish if he is the man you really want.

When you are in love, you consciously or unconsciously choose to ignore red flags that were there from the beginning. As the relationship progresses, you discover more things you don’t like about your partner.

It is essential to analyse the relationship from an object point of view and make a decision based on facts, not your dreams or fantasies. Find out why these stages occur in relationships and what you need to know to find true love here.

In order to identify if he is the man you want, you need to pay attention to the following:

  • His values – Make sure you both value the same things. Values are important when it comes to relationships. If you value completely different things, you will encounter conflict.

It is almost impossible to find someone who always has the same values as you do. As long as you both value working as a team, growing together, are willing to commit to your relationship and work through your differences, you are on the path to succeed in your relationship.

  • His standards – It is important to look at someone’s behaviour in order to establish his standards. He can talk about his ambitions with passion, but never takes any action to achieve them. Having different standards in life will create issues in a long-term relationship.


Final thoughts

I hope this article has helped you understand how to attract, support and keep the man of your dreams.

If you have any questions, feel free to leave them below and I will be more than happy to answer them.

All the best,


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18 thoughts on “How to attract the man of your dreams”

  1. Such a sweet and cute post. Yes how to attract the man if your dreams. My answer to this would be you attract what your are. Your aura attract the like energy just like a magnet.

    How to keep your man for the long term is how you evolve as a being through life. But, I will keep your points in mind for my other half, or I must say the better half 🙂

    Thank you for this beautiful post

    • Hi Habib,

      Thank you for your comment. You are absolutely right, you attract what you are. When we fall in love, we fall in love with similarities, shared values and interests.

      Wish you all the best,

  2. I love this “A true relationship is two imperfect people refusing to give up on each other.” –
    Isn’t that just the truth?
    Also, “As long as you both value working as a team, growing together, are willing to commit to your relationship and work through your differences”
    This is absolutely the key. We’ve been married for 25 years. We have gone through a lot. But we both have always been determined to get through anything together. We both take pride in every single year we can say Happy Anniversary.
    It’s work, it’s hard work. But it’s worth it.

    • Hi Teresa,

      Thank you for your comment.I am happy to see how you relate to the information in this article. And you are right, relationships are not easy. It takes commitment from both partners and determination to go through everything together.

      Wish you all the best,

  3. This is great post.
    I think you covered pretty everything that defines how to attract, get, and keep the man of the life for every single woman. I, as a man, have to agree that the superficial beauty is never working for a long-lasting relationship, unless connected with personal qualities.
    I love your approach about how to keep the relationship alive through letting that man feel special, I think we as men need to feel we can provide and protect( as women have to feel they can support and take care).

    • Hi Julius,

      Thank you very much for your comment. I am happy to see that you related to the article and found the tips useful.

      Kind regards,

  4. This is a very interesting and important topic as it is very educational as well. To be frank, this is what everyone is going through whether you are in a good relationship or a bad one. 

    It all comes down to how you understand each other. Just like you mentioned, “two people trying to understand each other” and growing their relationship.

    It is intriguing as it is exciting because every day brings with it new ways to please each other and grow happily in love.

    This article is a must-read by everyone who is single or in any kind of relationship. 

    Thanks a lot for posting this and writing about this in such details.

    • Hi Richard,

      Thank you very much for your comment. I am happy to see that you consider this article as both educational and a must-read for both singles and couples. Hope to see you here soon.

      Wish you all the best,


  5. How to attract the man of your dreams is a very emotional and inspirational article, and not just for women but also for men who truly are searching for the right woman. As a guy I know it is not easy to meet your dream lady, and as you become older the challenge becomes even more difficult. I imagine this is the same for women as well, so you have not only provided inspiration to women but also for men like myself.

    I can tell this article really does come from your heart to help women struggling to find the love of their life,


    • Hi Jeff,

      Thank you very much for your nice words. I am happy to see that you have learned from this article and you find it inspiring. Also, I am pleased to see that you recognised the advice given as being genuine and emotional.

      Wish you all the best,

  6. This was such a great read! It is definitely difficult to find someone you can share your life with but even more difficult to keep him once you have found him! Your article nails everything so perfectly! If only finding the right person was so easy…
    Thank you for your content and i love your site! Keep doing such amazing work!

    • Hi Sasha,

      Thank you for your comment. I agree with you completely, finding someone that is right for you and keeping them is very difficult, but not impossible.

      Wish you all the best,

  7. Love this article! I’ve been married for almost 18 years, a total of 23 years together. All what you stated are true that has made our marriage last. It takes hard work but when you’re with the right person, it’s all worth it. Love all your quotes!

    • Hi Dana,

      Thank you very much for your comment. I am happy to see that you can relate to this article. I hope many women will benefit from reading this article.

      Kind regards,

  8. I love your article, I defiantly learned a few things about myself as a man which is always good to learn something new about oneself. You really seem to know your men (stuff) and this is the first time I have never seen an article written so well about a gender, great job. After 30 years together with the same beautiful wonderful woman I would say first be your self because the truth will eventually reveal it’s self. Look for a friend and work together as a team to get things done. Looking forward to your next post, keep up the great work.

  9. Hi Ioana,
    I really enjoyed reading this article because it summarised some of the most common traits in men. Being aware of these characteristics can help your partner reach out to you more successfully in good and bad times.
    Thank you for sharing your insight.

    • Hi Ali,

      Thank you for your comment. I am happy to see that you enjoyed this article and you related to the information described here.

      Kind regards,


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