In this article I will show you how to find the perfect man for you. I will explain what qualities and values men look for when they meet a woman, how to catch their eyes and how to stand out from the crowd.
I will also show you how to keep them engaged in conversations, how to approach online dating and why you shouldn’t wait for men to make the first step.
How to find the perfect man
”Dating should be less about matching outward circumstances than meeting your inner necessity.”- Mark Amend
Many women leave dating to fate, falsely believing that the right man will show in front of them when it is meant to be. However, by waiting for your knight in shining armour on your couch, the probability is that he would never show up.
In order to meet the man of your dreams, you need to invest in dating. By going on many dates and give yourself time to date, your chances of finding Mr. Perfect will increase considerably.
Where to find the perfect man
”Whenever I date a guy, I think: Is this the man I want my children to spend their weekends with?”- Rita Rudner
Attend parties, barbecues, social events, dinners, go on trips and engage with people you don’t know. Get their numbers and expand your circle of people sharing the same interest. The more people that share your interests you know, the easier it is to find Mr Right.
Develop social skills by socialising with everyone. By developing strong social skills you will be able to talk with anyone you meet. So when you actually meet the man of your dreams, conversation will become more natural.
How to attract him
“I think confidence is a true form of beauty.” – Becky G
Men are attracted to self-confidence, independence, integrity and femininity. If you possess these qualities and have high values you can have any man you desire.
Self-confidence is something men can spot from miles. In order to express self-confidence and be like a magnet to men you need to be certain of your abilities and qualities.
Flirt confidently with men, give subtle signs that you are interested, be playful and spontaneous in your conversation.
Stand out for the crowd by being yourself. Know what you want in a man and never settle for less. Don’t get impressed by superficial things and don’t compare yourself with others.
An independent woman has her own life, hobbies, activities and friends. Men are attracted to women who are independent and can live their own life.
If being in a relationship is what has defined you in the past, it’s time to work on yourself and find yourself before you meet the man of your dreams.
Men are attracted to women that have a passion in their lives. This might be going to the gym, writing, reading, theatre, travelling or cooking.
Men are not only attracted but respect women who have clear standards. Act with integrity and have clear values.
Make him feel special
”A real woman can go through anything on her own, but a real man won’t let her.”- Unknown
Men have an inner desire to protect and provide. They desire to feel they bring something to your life. If they feel they are not needed, they become insecure.
Yes, men are attracted to independent and strong women. However, if they feel there is nothing they can bring to the relationship, their instinctual desire to provide is unaccomplished.
If he offers to take care of you in any way, let him do it. Don’t resist his help and don’t try to show him that you can do the task on your own. Read more here about how men behave in relationships and what they want from you here.
Myth or reality? If he likes me, he will approach me.
”Rejections send us on a mission to seek and destroy our self-esteem.”- Guy Winch
The more attracted men are to you, the less likely they will engage in a conversation with you.
When men are attracted to women they are scared of being rejected and humiliated. Rejection lowers their self-esteem.
In this matter, men are not different from women. It is easier to flirt and talk with people we don’t feel attracted to. The more attracted you are to someone, the harder it is to feel self-confident.
How to show him you are interested
”If you’re interested in a man, act interested in him.”- Evan Marc Katz
In order to make the man you have laid eyes on make the first step and approach you, you need to give him clear indication that you are interested.
You can do this by looking at him, making eye contact and smiling. If he reciprocates, but still doesn’t make a move, invite him over to you by making a small and subtle gesture with your hand.
How to seduce him with your conversation
- Show him you are interested in his values, the things that make him unique and special.
- Ask open questions, be a good listener and try to create an emotional connection.
- Ask subtle questions about the qualities and values you are looking for in a man in order to determine at early stages if he is the man you are looking for.
- Ask questions about his interests and passions. Everyone loves to talk about things they love.
- Ask intriguing and interesting questions that would keep his mind engaged. Men love to solve problems and achieve tasks.
”Internet dating is the fastest, most efficient way to gather a pool of qualified candidates. It could take you a lifetime to do the investigation that the computer comes up with in seconds.” -Judsen Culbreth
Although I have found my Mr. Right on an online platform, I acknowledge that there are many disadvantages of online dating.
First, it is hard to communicate our real personality through a dating profile. When you meet in real life, you might be disappointed of your choice, as the image you created in your mind it’s different from the reality.
You might need to go on many dates with people you don’t feel the slightest attraction towards. Also, from having such a big variety to choose from, we tend to dismiss certain online profiles based on looks, pictures or a profile description.
Tips for online dating:
- Keep your profile simple and honest.
- Include the type of guy you are looking for and what exactly you expect from the application. For example, if you are not there for one-night-stands, make it clear.
- Don’t lose your time talking too much online. Use online dating only to set up real dates.
- Don’t make it your only method of dating men.
I hope this article has offered you a clear understanding on how to find and how to attract the perfect man for you. By understanding what men look for in a woman and how to keep him interested, you will bring dating to another level.
If you have any questions, feel free to leave them below and I will be more than happy to answer them.
All the best,
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